These visual diagrams are used as clinical tools during therapy sessions. Explanations and application are provided in-session, tailored to each client.
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1) Saw, heard, smelled
2) Thoughts: What I was saying to myself
3) Emotions: Sad, Fearful, Angry
It all started when….this was happening…(continue to describe what you experienced, including 1,2,3)……
Definition of antagonism within the DSM-5.
Antagonism (versus agreeableness): Behaviors that put the individual at odds with other people,
Including an exaggerated sense of self and concomitant (naturally accompanying),
Expectation of special treatment as well as a callous antipathy towards others,
Unawareness of others’ needs and feelings
And a readiness to use others in the service of self-enhancement.
The body language of someone with an exaggerated sense of self, expecting special treatment, showing callousness towards others, and using others for self-enhancement may exhibit the following non-verbal cues:
1. Exaggerated Sense of Self
Posture: Upright, rigid posture, often standing or sitting in a dominant position. They may position themselves in the center of a room or conversation, taking up more space than necessary.
Chin Tilted Up: This can suggest arrogance or superiority, with their chin slightly raised, making them appear to "look down" on others.
Grand Gestures: Large, sweeping hand movements to draw attention to themselves, often trying to dominate the space visually.
2. Expectation of Special Treatment
Impatient Movements: Tapping feet, checking their watch or phone, and sighing heavily when they feel they are not being prioritized. This behavior implies they believe they deserve immediate attention.
Ignoring Others: They may turn their body away from those they deem unimportant or not useful to them, signaling disinterest or disregard.
Eye-Rolling: Dismissive or disrespectful gestures, like rolling their eyes when they are not getting the attention they believe they deserve, can be common.
3. Callous Antipathy Towards Others
Cold or Blank Facial Expressions: They might maintain a neutral or disinterested face, showing little warmth or empathy toward others' emotions or concerns. No effort to mirror others' feelings.
Invading Personal Space: Stepping too close to others, not respecting personal boundaries, signaling dominance or disregard for others' comfort.
Interrupting Conversations: Cutting others off mid-sentence, often redirecting the conversation back to themselves, showing little care for others' input or needs.
4. Unawareness of Others’ Needs and Feelings
Lack of Eye Contact (with those considered 'beneath' them): They may avoid making direct eye contact with people they deem insignificant, showing little interest in engaging or connecting with others.
Self-Centered Gestures: Constantly adjusting their own appearance (fixing hair, straightening clothes) while others are speaking, signaling disinterest in what others have to say.
Talking Over Others: Raising their voice or dominating conversations without noticing or caring if others are uncomfortable or disengaged.
5. Readiness to Use Others for Self-Enhancement
Mirroring Behavior Selectively: They may mirror the body language of those they want to impress or extract something from, creating a false sense of connection to manipulate.
Feigning Interest (but only superficially): They may lean forward or make strong eye contact with people they are trying to impress or gain something from, but the interest is short-lived once their goal is achieved.
Dismissive Gestures: Turning away, crossing arms, or showing disinterest the moment they no longer find someone useful.
In essence, the body language reflects entitlement, dominance, and a lack of empathy. This person may seem commanding and confident, but their gestures reveal a lack of true connection with others, highlighting their self-serving motivations.